Grieving During the Holidays: You're Not Alone

The end of year holidays can bring up a mix of emotions and be an especially difficult time for those living with grief and loss. 100% of us are grievers, we have all lost something or someone. In life, we are taught how to acquire things but we are not taught how to lose them. This is interesting considering that the one thing guaranteed in life is loss. If you find yourself grieving this season, whether it’s the passing of a loved one, the end of a relationship, distance from family, or changes in life circumstances. Every loss is valid, and your feelings matter. Please remember there’s no “right” way to feel. It’s okay to honor your emotions and take the upcoming days at your own pace.

Here are a few gentle ways to honor all kinds of loss this season:

• Create a memory space, such as lighting a candle, displaying a photo, or writing a message for a person or connection you’re missing; whether through death, estrangement, or other separation.

• Carry on a favorite tradition OR create a new ritual honoring what you’ve loved or lost. This could be preparing a favorite meal, visiting a meaningful place, or engaging in an activity that brings comfort.

• Make space for your feelings, whatever form they take: sadness, anger, gratitude, or relief are all normal.

• Take breaks when you need to. Allow yourself to skip events or set boundaries with others about what feels comfortable.

• Reach out: Connect with a support group, a counselor, or someone who understands. Sharing your feelings can lighten the load.

• Practice self-kindness. Allow room for tears, laughter, and rest. They are all part of the journey of healing.

Above all, know that it’s okay to find your own way through the season, whether you want to celebrate, remember quietly, or simply get through the day. You are not alone.

~ Written by Tamika Moore